Educational Weekend in Ottawa

It was purely a pleasure to hang out with Mr North in Ottawa this past weekend for WordPress Conference. (I know it’s Wednesday and I am finally catching up on some new posts. ) Took the Via Rail up on Friday morning and I love how one can work on the computer or take a nap. Some drama-rama is going on so this quick trip out was a great breather!! I won’t bore you with the detail of drama since it is irrelevant.

I wouldn’t want to to miss this conference since I know a few speakers and it’s great to connect & network with people that are so passionate to learn about how to use WordPress website and learning to use all the tools that is available. This website will be in transition soon from being on WordPress.com to WordPress.org in the upcoming week. Also, I have already made a pitch (thanks to one of my WordPress peers, encouraging women to speak at these Camps) that I will do a presentation about my transition WordPress Camp in Toronto October 5 & 6 2013.

After the conference was over we ended up heading out to the pub for drinks and snacks, then we went to Bare Fax to watch strippers, and ended off the night with Karaoke in the heart of Ottawa’s Chinatown. It was not a kinky weekend but it was an educational weekend and hanging out with my WordPress peers. Learned lots and looking forward to some exciting website upgrades!!

Brilliance of the Sea; Day 3 Curacao

Kokomo Beach

The first day off the ship and we’ve arrived in Curacao. WOW! It is so pretty out here!! We(the 5 couple group)took a van-size taxi and requested a quiet beach and ended up at Kokomo Beach. Open water diving, snorkeling, a bar and a restaurant available to cover your afternoon needs. Of course, lounge sun chairs available (but be aware to pay a rental fee if you didn’t make enough purchases from the restaurant/bar). The water is clear, clear blue and white sand beach. Be aware of the rocks along the shore but once you swim out and swim out to the floating dock, it’s really nice. A bonus feature, we ended up taking our bikini’s off (the restaurant owners allowed us) and tanned topless.

I fell in love with a new cuisine! Surinamese food! A blend of Dutch, Indonesian, East Indian and Chinese cuisine all in one. I wish I took a picture of what I ate but it was really quite a wonderful blend of spices and flavors. If you ever go, check out De Ruyter Cafe.

The theme set for the night was called Rumble in the Jungle. Perfect, I wore my gold sparkle leopard print outfit that I wore for NYE. I wore it in the dining room but any risque outfits, they give you a “bum towel” (as if I will have an orgasm over their food) but it’s the rule that one will have to respect on the cruise ship. One of the servers insisted that I need two towels. I guess, if I plan to squirt right then and there at the dining table! (Please, I have some table etiquette).

Remember the guy that I mentioned that I ran into on the first day?? The one that wanted to play with me but I said no. I am not sure why but he was trying to pick on my later on that night. No idea, but I decided that I had enough and the only reason why I think he was making a big stink is because I refused to have sex with him. His attitude about it. I didn’t think it would have been an honest hook up. I believe it’s all about how people he has fucked and it was a notch on the belt. You can’t just count how many, it’s the quality and intensity being exchanged.

Teddy Bear is a new friend. Sometimes I craved some cuddles, feeling cold. That night I craved wearing sweatpants . Instead, I got a new bed buddy to keep me warm. Indeed, he was toasty!!

Friends, Food, and Sex en Mi Casa!

Happy housewarming dinner party this past Friday night. A lot of my friends that have been part of my life in the last few years whether they are part of the lifestyle, fetish, colleagues, and even a few from outside of the scene came over to my house. I think about 25 to 30 people attended and everyone brought a lot of food to be shared such as wild game spaghetti salads(by Mr and Mrs Wraten), Vigi’s lamb Popsicle (by Mr Tight Buns – forgot his other original nick name), cheesecake(by Mrs Cuter with Curves), cupcakes, macaroons, fruit, and wine to share among everyone. It was a lovely spread of food!!. Most people knew each other and if they didn’t, everyone was pretty cordial together in the same room. Not only it was a housewarming/dinner party, we also celebrated two birthdays as well!! Birthday Daddy got a head start and had some action on my bed. Gave them my rubber sheet and sex towels & good-to-go.

After the dinner party, most of us went to Fetish Friday at Oasis Aqualounge to continue partying with everyone else and take the noise out to the club to vent it all out! My condo building is mostly older people so keeping the noise level to the minimum is a great idea. Besides I don’t want to do too much laundry, the beauty of playing outside of home is someone else to do the cleaning! A great night spending it with friends and Boy Toy came by after he finished work so the night is just getting started!! Boy Toy is always tentative, all eyes on me, and shower me with PDA.

Boy Toy and I soon take our play upstairs, I couldn’t wait to ravage him since I haven’t seen him in 5 days. Thank goodness my mid-week menage a trois sedate my sex hunger (which was a pretty hot scene, tell you more in a bit). We started playing, clothes strewn all over the floor and having our way with each other. A couple laying in the next bed watching us and soon another couple came in, watching and playing with each other. As soon as the other couple beside us left, the other couple hopped to the next bed to us. Somehow in the mix, the boys negotiated some play. Boy Toy ended up fucking the lady in the couple. I watched them play and didn’t play with the male. He was more interested in watching his wife getting fucked by other men. Meanwhile, I could have gotten upset but it was hot watching him fuck this lady. Does it look that hot when he fuck me on my fours?? I think it does…. so meanwhile when positions changed and she got on top of boy toy reverse cow girl and I sat on his face, I squirted all over his face three/four times.

Mr and Mrs Wraten stayed overnight at my house, along with Boy Toy. Good thing they came prepared with an air mattress. Fell fast asleep as soon as we got home. However, I must have been dreaming about sex since I kept playing with his cock all morning and woke him up early. Hot and horny first thing in the morning and the new word is sex alarm. Waking up people next bed over to the sounds of sex!! Grumble, grumble, spooning turns cock simultaneously rock hard. Good morning!!

Saturday night I stayed in. I couldn’t muster up the energy to go out and be on. Sometimes MsKitty needs a night off and chill out at home. There is still plenty of leftovers to eat and unfinished bottles of wine to drink. The kitchen sink was clogged all weekend and after two bottles of Drano, baby plunger, and hot water & dish soap combo finally released the clogged pipe.

Kitty Lotus the Dirty Cop with Riding Crop!

Sunday afternoon it was my second appearance on Victory Commonwealth Wrestling as Kitty Lotus. Wore my cop outfit and had my riding crop in hand. My “Wrestling boyfriend”, Rex Atkins is a total villain and puts out a fight. When Gabriel Soul-Jones rolled out of the ring, I had an opportunity to knee him in the chest and got chased around the ring. Being part of this group is a fun side thing and now the boys in the backstage expects to see me as part of the gang.

Brilliance of the Sea; Day 2

Ahh, sea day on route to Curacao. Woke up at 9am ready and alive, straight to the gym. Some people really indulge in cruise eating and going bonkers on the desert. It was a late night but I don’t want to lose the day and sleep away in the cave. My stateroom has no window so it feels like one. After my workout strolling into the Windjammer Cafe and finding Mr Sandman eating alone. My inner motor( not my inner goddess) let me drive that stick. We negotiated to play after breakfast (well after my shower). Oh, he makes me melt and I just want to ravage him right then and there. I could have cared less about showering at that point.

In the afternoon, I sun bathed by the upper pool deck, off to the side away from the music so I can relax and read my Fifty Shades of Crap (as I call it) book two. Yes, the amount of times she wrote murmur was over the top. It is an easy read. However, the three things that I did like about the story line is:

1.) The contract respecting boundaries and limits

2.) The importance of using the safe word – Safe word is used in the BDSM community but it should be used in the lifestyle community as well. Don’t ever be shy to say stop or pull the plug on the scene.

3.) The use of condoms – even though they were in a monogamous relationship and didn’t want any unplanned pregnancy.

My true honest opinion on this book is like the Pretty Woman movie but in BDSM context.

(I forgot to mention..) I went to a great workshop that day with Den Temin, Couples Cruise on-board sexologist. A great way to learn more about communication and negotiation. I think I need a separate post on negotiations. I get asked on how I negotiate play. It can happen before, during and post play. Checking in with your partner at any given time is OK. Remember this experience heightens the pleasure for the both partners during and post-play.

Dinner plans was already prearranged with D&D. We had made arrangements prior to the cruise to enjoy at least one dinner together at Portofino’s. They are so incredibly sweet and I am so looking forward to seeing them next week at Hot Springs. Apparently, they want to see me in Host-mode. Hopefully, if I go on more cruises, we will be able to enjoy more time together.

Later in the night, I did finally meet Mr. Sandman’s roommate. Interesting…… since he is not in the chocolate room working, I didn’t get a chance to have a sleepover with him at all. I checked out the chocolate room, said hello to the boys. Say hello to my friends and meet the fresh meat. I was a little tired so I did have an earlier night and going back to the stateroom to sleep.

Brilliance of the Sea; Day 1

My group of 5 couples arrived a little late checking onto the Royal Caribbean Cruise ship. This time we did opt for the $55 per day premium liquor package. That way we don’t have to pay per drink and unlimited. Really, I didn’t go crazy with the alcohol. Between the sunshine and sea legs, walking around the ship with heels, you should take care of yourself. Plus, drunk sex is never the best sex.

We checked the room out, dropped off unnecessary baggage (really no pun intended, a week full of fun and being stimulated, drop the phone and laptop off), and hungry for lunch. As I keep my eyes open for Mr Sandman and Papi, I ended up running into someone who I didn’t really want to see (from the previous cruise, he crossed my boundaries and had to added onto my “No-No List”). I muffled a hello but I really needed to eat since I was hangry.

Lunch was gobbled in a haste and joined the rest outside along the pool deck to watch the scenery of Puerto Rico diminish away as we sail off. I ran into a few other Toronto friends and a few others from the previous cruise. One of the (chocolate) guys, asked me if I wanted to go downstairs for a quickie(didn’t do him last time) but I said no, not now. He didn’t take it so well. I think underneath, he was jealous that I had my eyes out for Mr Sandman and perhaps he saw it on my face.

Just as I was walking around, I ran into Mr Sandman with a few new chocolate friends, Hello. Try to keep my cool, yet squirming inside since Mr Sandman have been emailing back and forth since the previous cruise. Thank goodness I don’t have a cock ’cause it would be standing rock solid! Although, I do love knowing that I can be in close perimeters and Mr Sandman’s cock is rather delighted to see me in his linen trousers. I know he hates it but like anything, he knows that I get underneath his skin in excitement.

At night, it was a casual/tropical theme. I opt to wear my La Casa Del Habano linen dress with my fake flower clipped into my hair(something that I never wear in Toronto). Pre-drinks at the bar, dinner in the dining room (your 3 course affair), and then the remaining time to find adventures. Negotiated play in Mr Sandman’s room and a very well-deserved fuck for a few hours. Back to my room to shower and venture off to the live Latin Band to find Papi and friend. Ended the night chatting, catching up, and agenda of the cruise.

Pre-Cruise Puerto Rico April 5 2013

The backyard of the villa…

What another cruise?? Mr and Mrs Curly’s friends wife couldn’t make it due to a job change so he needed a female to join him. No obligations, no bullshit, just a friendly guy. Not just a typical cruise, a lifestyle cruise with Couples Cruises on The Brilliance of the Sea! Arriving late on Friday night, just missed the pre-party at Senor Frog but I still met my group of friends there as soon as I landed. The group of 5 couples have been partying/touring together for the past 3 days prior so they have been in relaxed/party mode for a while and rented out a villa together in a gated community.

There was no way that I could have caught up with them drinking but that’s OK, it’s not a competition and I still have a whole week of play time!! We didn’t stay at Senor Frog for much longer and returned to the villa. I could have met up with Mr Sandman back at his hotel but I didn’t want to disrespect my other friends that invited me either. Our driver aka tour guide aka Mr Captain received a “payment” from the ladies – driving all day and no drinking for him. They propped him on the dining table and took turns playing with him. I know, tough job but someone had to do it. I didn’t participate but it was fun to watch!

My night ended up in Mr and Mrs Curly’s bed. They ended up with the biggest bed in the house and plus they invited me to come up for some cuddles. We played a little bit but I think with the combo of alcohol and drinks did them in. Somehow, I woke up with no blankets. Mrs Curly hogged all the blankets and Mr Curly was sleeping in a T formation with his legs underneath me, snoring away with his head tilted off the bed. It may look like a crazy night but I was a funny moment!!

Missing you, Missing Me…

Sorry (as my Canadian side comes out) for being MIA for over a week. Those that knew that I went away to another Lifestyle cruise and I just came back a day later than my exceeded schedule. Arrived this afternoon, greeted at the airport by my boy toy, a welcome home PRD and some well-deserved afternoon frolic in bed, late lunch, and bantered at home with more rounds of sex & cuddles.

More to write about my 7 days adventures on the Brilliance of the Seas Royal Carribean with Papi, Mr Sandman, Mr & Mrs Curly and a few more new ones such as Teddy Bear and …..

Just a few more days in Sunny Florida….

After my one and only night in Caliente, it was time to see my other friends that live in Fort Lauderdale. They are also friends from Oasis Aqualounge but lucky enough to live in Florida half the year and the other half of the time in Toronto. I’ve promised them that I would try to visit for a few days without over-staying my welcome. It was an early flight with Spirit Airlines and I don’t think I would ever fly with them again as they nickel and dime you for check-in luggage and carry on. However, when I got to see my friends on the other end, I forgot about the check- in experience and continue my last few days of vacation.

As soon as we got back to their place, we immediately started to get ready for Haulover Beach. One of the few nude beaches around the States and my second attending. My friends have a few camps of friends that hang out together. It’s almost like Wreck Beach where people have the group in an organized community. We were greeted by this tall British fellow and had all the flags of his friends out. He even put out a Canadian flag for me too!! Too bad I didn’t take a pic with it but I have to respect the people around me too. Their community was lovely, shared food together and even learned how to play horseshoe as well. I think I was better practicing then actually playing the game!!

That night since it was Superbowl we went to their favorite lifestyle club called Trapeze. They had all the flat screens on with the game and the food is more catered to Superbowl. One of the highlights of the club is actually the food. They serve dinner and past midnight, its breakfast food. Believe it or not, the food is pretty good! It’s a BYOB and they give you a code on your bottle and tag you a bracelet (so the bar knows your bottle). If you decide to go to the back play area, you must get changed into a towel, and put your stuff in a locker (they have attendant). Since they did allow single males in (due to the game), single males can only be on one (left) side of play area until they get invited to other(right) side to play. You see, each club will slightly different rules and if they have tour options, take it!

Next day was pretty chill since we decided to have a BBQ and hang out with their friends at the house in the late afternoon. One of the things about my friends, they are Spanish so hospitality is always really warm. The whole “mi casa su casa” is true! The food was an amazing spread with steak, chicken, cerviche, rice, and salad. We sat outside until dark chatting and laughing. When we decided to go out, we checked out Scarlett’s Cabaret (a strip club) for a bit and then we went to a club to dance to Spanish music. It wasn’t a late night since one of their friends had their key and we opt to eat more leftovers & danced in the living room instead!

The 11 day trip was a mad whirl wind!! I covered a lot of grounds and it took about a weekend to get caught up on my sleep. No rest for the wicked when I knew I had my Hot Springs event and First Taste back to back. Well back to reality and as always, playing catch up takes a few days to do!!

Muy Caliente en Caliente Resort in Florida

It was a very early morning dock at Tampa on Saturday, February 2. After a night of a few hours of sleep, I dragged all my belongings off the ship by myself and found the line up for the coach bus heading up to Caliente Resort. My original ride told me via text to take the bus up instead of them driving down to pick me up. Apparently, the fee to Caliente doesn’t cover the coach and had to pay a $60 fee. Luckily, they had extra space on the bus so I was able to get a ride and pay them when I get there.

Slept my whole way there to Caliente, couldn’t keep my eyes open. I was quite delighted to see Dr B greeted me down the driveway when I arrived. He drove me to the condo where they are staying and passed out for a few hours before I joined them at the pool. The pool has large areas to sunbathe, a tiki hut to grab drinks and free popcorn, and the sports bar has take-out food options for you to eat by the pool. The funny thing about the Sports bar, they don’t have cash option, either you pay by credit card or gift card. Gift card is available at the front desk area.

It was really nice to see some of the couples that I’ve met and officially meeting the couples that I’ve only seen in passing on the cruise ship at the resort. The one thing about this place is somewhat divided on the nudist vs lifestyle. The resort has new ownership and the nudist community (that purchased property) feels a bit disgruntled that they can’t bring children or teenagers to the pool area and loss in property value. Can people in the lifestyle community devalue your property?? Why the division of nudist and lifestyle people??

What is really unique about this property is that there are some really nice variety of housing. It’s not just hotel,it’s also condos, casitas, villas, and even people owning (full-time) homes. That night after dinner Dr B & Dr B, we ran into their friends in the piano bar. Even though they were older and retired yet they still sparkle and have the energy, its beautiful! They embrace life to the fullest and their eyes tell me so!! We were all invited back to their house (they live full-time on the property), drank more wine, snacks, and lovely baking. They eventually made head way to play and meanwhile I sat on the couch with a bowl of chips, wine, and watched TV.

Would I go again?? Perhaps.. it’s a good tail end of a trip to unwind from cruise and get your legs back to normal. There isn’t a coach to bring you to the airport, it’s either car rental or $65 taxi.

Jewel of the Sea, Day 5 The Last Hurrah n’ Bang!

The last day and the weather was a bit cool and windy. Mind you the boat was on rapid speed to get back to Tampa due to wasted time. There was a bit of drama overnight and at one point the boat had to return to Cozumel for a couple of reasons. I don’t have full 100% facts and I have heard a few versions of this particular story. This couple, a man and a woman had met online. He wanted to go on this particular cruise but they have not met in person until day of the cruise. I don’t really know why the had an argument, jealousy rage, she’s crazy (maybe bi-polar), too much to drink – no idea. Apparently, she stabbed him with a broken beer bottle. The stateroom became a crime scene, literally . Some say she went to Mexican jail or she was quarantined in the room and he had to go to the hospital.

My afternoon was filled with a bit of administration/affiliate meetings, learning more about the cruises, the types of rooms, and brainstorming on other business ideas. I’m glad Papi and I went on this cruise together. Together we are like a team, Papi can coach the couples and I lure them like a wrangler. Some people loved us or didn’t know what to think of us even though we both have our own primary partners. It didn’t bother me if people didn’t like us, perhaps they were not ready for us. I’ve always do my dance and never follow others. This was always the case in school. I never followed my peers, always my own lead. I push boundaries and think outside the box.

Good thing when it is still windy, you can enjoy the solarium (indoor pool, hot tub, lounge area and bar). I found my last night group loitering in the high traffic zone. It was fun as we watch all the action as I sat on Mr Curley’s lap. Looks like I may plan to go on the next cruise with them in April 2013. Puerto Rico and all of the other stops sounds luscious with the Caribbean areas. Here is the link:

Since it was the last night before Papi and I parted ways once we hit the port of Tampa, we decided that it would be nice to have a dinner for two in the Dining Room. The theme was “Lady in Red theme” and wore one of my hot red lingerie outfit(which kept making the guy next table staring at me). It was really lovely to debrief our week together and sharing a pretty intimate conversation. We both have very different backgrounds (ethnicity, sexual identity, education), lifestyle vs polyamory , and boundaries (things we can/cannot do sexually). However, we’re both sexually charged beings that facilitate others on how to express themselves properly in safe environment(s). The things that we do have in common is our similarity in age, dance, and certainly our professional goals. I’ve learned lots over this period that we shared in a week. Both us was equally nervous if we didn’t get along but between our communication skills, we were civil and we do want to do more cruises again!!

After dinner, we decided to meet a few people in the Schooner Pub for drinks/night-caps before Papi and I go dancing to the live Latin Band one more night. It was a lot of fun but I knew I had to leave the Spanish music and do my official night-cap with Char Travel group before the cruise becomes officially over. Most of the entertainment is done a little earlier as we get off the ship at an early time.

Did I get a bit of Mr Sandman one more time?? Yes, I did….. this time he came over to my stateroom and slept on one end of the bed. It pretty late at that point so sleep was the least of our worries!! After he did mention that he was going to be my bitch (at least for the week). He’s a fun bitch, a little mouthy but the challenge keeps me on my toes. Enjoy it while it’s still available and on vacation!! Not that I get action every night back in Toronto. It’s quality not quantity….

PS. The surprise that he got for Papi and I were fedora hats from Mr Sandman. We found it hanging on our door knob. How thoughtful, my bitch.

PSS. Would I go on a cruise again?? Yes!! Would I get a group together?? Yes!! We are looking to get an Oasis Aqualounge Group together for January 2014. Here is the link:

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